How to Handle a Stubborn Parent Who Refuses Home Care

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During the early stages of cognitive impairment, it’s often difficult for elder parents to realize–or admit– that they need additional assistance at home. Excuses to forego Caledon in-home care often include an assurance that they don’t need help, even when it’s clear they do. However, there are ways to convince your aging parent that a little help is a good thing.

Find Out Why There’s an Aversion to Home Care

There’s often a reason why a senior parent has an aversion to in-home care. It could be something as simple as not liking the idea of having a stranger in his or her home or feeling embarrassed about needing assistance with daily routines that used to be second nature. It may take a while to get the answer, so be patient with your questioning and try not to push.

Provide Options

Let your parent have a say in what home care services are provided, who will be providing the care (many Caledon home care agencies allow seniors to meet their potential caregivers in advance to see if there’s compatibility), and when the caregiver will be in the home.

Get a Second Opinion

It’s often hard for parents to deal with role reversal when their children start insisting their aging parents need home care. Reduce combativeness or defensiveness by including your loved one’s doctor or trusted friends in the discussion. Sometimes, hearing the truth from an outside source is all a senior needs.

Give Your Loved One Time to Adjust

Whether opting for live-in or part-time elder care in Caledon, be there when the in-home caregiver arrives to make your parent feel more comfortable as he or she gets used to having this new person in the home. Gradually make excuses to leave them alone for short periods or ask your loved one if the professional caregiver can take him or her to an upcoming doctor’s appointment after you sense an increased level of comfort.

Use an Indirect Approach

You don’t have to discuss the full range of home care services if you think it will overwhelm or confuse your loved one. Instead, only mention the essentials. For instance, “I’ve asked someone to help out around the house and check in on you.” You can also make it about you, saying, “I’ve asked someone to check in on you to give me peace of mind when I can’t be here with you.”

Find the home care your loved one needs and deserves through Caledon Home Care Assistance. Although we are known for our dementia and Alzheimer’s care in Caledon, we also provide flexible hourly and live-in care for seniors. Our caregivers are trained, experienced, and can help with a variety of tasks including light housekeeping, cooking, running errands, medication reminders, and can offer companionship and emotional support. Call 905-951-8885 today and speak with a friendly Care Manager to learn more.